Immigrating with Children:
Handling New Cultural Influences On Your Children
By Michelle StrakaImmigrating to Canada with your children in
tow creates a separate set of challenges; that you may not have expected.
Not only do you have to tackle the larger issues, such as housing and
employment, but you also have to consider schooling, friends and some of the
more complex issues that follow. Knowing what to expect in the process can
make you better prepared to handle these challenges.
Canada’s school year runs from September to
June; however, children can join the school year once it has already begun.
There are short breaks for Christmas, March Break and various national and
religious holidays. The summer vacation lasts through July and August and
there are no classes during this time. Daily hours are typically Monday to
Friday 8:30am to 3:30pm, but can vary depending on the school. Private
schools can operate on a different timeframe than the public schools, but
tend to follow a similar schedule. A typical curriculum includes math,
English spelling and grammar, French, Canadian history, geography, art,
physical education and sex education. School-sponsored sports and other
extra-curricular activities can occur outside of regular school hours.
To account for a multi-cultural student
population, religious education is largely absent in the public schools.
Some schools have implemented non-denominational “prayer rooms” to allow
students to practice daily religious observations. Separate or parochial
schools that are affiliated with religious groups, such as Roman-Catholic
Separate School Boards, or Jewish parochial schools, do exist. These schools
may accept students of other religious denominations, but give first
priority to those belonging to their own religious community. For the most
part, the quality of education amongst schools is equal, and education is
highly regulated in Canada in an attempt to foster and maintain this
equality.
Many children in Canada are exposed to a
multi-cultural environment from a young age, and as such, have developed a
tolerance and appreciation for different cultures. Therefore, you should
have little worry of your child fitting in with the other students.
Difficulties with the language may pose a problem if your child cannot speak
English or French, depending on where in Canada you live, although since
children tend to develop language skills quite quickly this should not be an
issue for long. These days, most schools and teachers have taught children
from other countries, and are familiar with the challenges that can follow.
You should keep in close contact with your children’s teachers, and as much
as possible inquire as to how they are doing in the classroom and the
schoolyard. Too often, immigrant parents neglect the social aspect of their
children’s schooling, and can miss key signs of trouble. Such monitoring is
even more important, considering that immigrant children may hesitate to
tell teachers and parents about trouble they experience with other students
for fear of making the situation worse, or causing even more distress with
parents already handling their own problems.
It is difficult to generalize the
liberalism of children in Canada, because of the level of multi-culturalism.
Some children are raised more strictly than others, depending on the
nationality of their parents. However, these days, the typical Canadian
child develops an interest in North American music, fashion and popular
culture at an early age. This can be a cause of concern for immigrant
parents whose children develop behaviors that are in stark contrast to the
sensibilities of their original culture. It is important to understand that
your child is now exposed to ideas and behaviors more typical of a Canadian
youngster. Keeping true to a youngster’s natural state of curiosity, your
children may experiment with some of these behaviors while developing their
own personalities. Try to differentiate between potentially destructive
behaviors, and those that simply indicate your child’s adjustment to Canada.
The struggles that children face with their
immigrant parents are a familiar occurrence among such families. Generations
of immigrants have watched their children, whether born in their “old”
countries or in Canada, develop a cultural identity much different from
their own. Those who keep an open mind to the new cultural influences make
the transition most successfully, especially with older children.
Maintain open dialogue with your children
about their new friends and experiences. Meet and get to know the new people
in their lives, including friends, fellow students and teachers. Discuss any
negative issues with patience and understanding to ensure that you do not
compromise the open flow of communication between yourself and your
children. Keeping true to the Canadian appreciation of other cultures,
welcome the changes and differences that develop in your family as much as
possible. Change an be a good thing…isn’t that why you came to Canada?
About Author
As the youngest child of immigrant parents, Michelle speaks from personal, as well as professional experience.
Michelle Straka is a professional Recruiting and Human Resources Consultant. She began her career with RWH International in 1998, providing job search and immigration consultation services to residents of Canada, U.S., South Africa, the United Kingdom, the Middle East and more. She has broad experience assisting clients from all over the world on the many issues regarding relocation to Canada and the U.S., including employment searches. She joined DGA Careers, which recruits entry- to executive-level professionals across Canada, in September 2000 as a Senior Recruiting Consultant. She also administers the insurance-specific recruiting websites
Insuranceworks.ca and
Insuranceworks.com, servicing Canada and the U.S. respectively. She can be reached at
Michelle@dgacareers.com
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